Sunday, September 22, 2013

Silver Sands Veterinary Celebrates: The Human-Animal Bond

Silver Sands Veterinary Center
Celebrating Forty Years of the 
Human-Animal Bond
Donald H. DeForge, VMD


"Do not think that love in order to be genuine has to be extraordinary. What we need is to love without getting tired. Be faithful in small things because it is in them that your strength lies."  Mother Teresa of Calcutta

Four decades of animal care as a veterinarian have slid right by as though it was only a moment in time.  As Silver Sands Veterinary Center begins its next decade of care, it is a time of great excitement!

I have had two questions asked of me over the years.  The most common is: Why did I become a veterinarian?  The second question always is: How do I balance the many hours that I spend in animal care with the rest of my life?

I became a veterinarian because I was blessed to be brought up by parents who loved their children and explained to them the importance of helping others.  I was drawn between human medicine and veterinary medicine and chose the latter.  A choice that I would never change after forty years of being privileged to meet and help animals in pain and suffering.

The second question is much harder to answer. I was blessed to meet Sister Rose Curtin in the late 80's.  Sister Rose was the most humble person that I have ever met.  She said to me once....."we must strive to help those in need to the point of great exhaustion because if we don't they may not find others who will do the same."  She went on to say: " Don, you do that in your care of animals each and every day.  You remove the suffering of the animal and you console the suffering pet owner; what an awesome responsibility!"  Sister Rose took me to rooms of care and opened my mind to the importance of assisting all in need.  She would call at night and say: "Don pack a bag we have a job to accomplish."  I would answer: "Where are we going Sister?" She would always reply: "Not very far...... but I do want you to be prepared once more to help others as we have done together so many times in the past."  Sister Rose will always be my personal saint.  She may never be canonized but I will always consider her as part of the trilogy of St. Teresa the Little Flower and Mother Teresa of Calcutta.  Read the words of Mother Teresa below that Sister Rose followed in her life. 

"Life is an opportunity, benefit from it.  Life is beauty, admire it. Life is a dream, realize it. Life is a challenge, meet it. Life is a duty, complete it. Life is a game, play it. Life is a promise, fulfill it. Life is sorrow, overcome it. Life is a song, sing it. Life is a struggle, accept it. Life is a tragedy, confront it. Life is an adventure, dare it. Life is luck, make it. Life is too precious, do not destroy it. Life is life, fight for it."
Mother Teresa of Calcutta

That is my answer to the second question: How do I balance the many hours that I spend in animal care with the rest of my personal life?

Dr. George Whitney, my mentor as a freshman veterinarian over 40 years ago, said to me on a program I hosted on Talk Show Radio WICC the following: "Don, I do not envy you practicing in a time of great disrespect for the veterinarian and in a time of anxiety, distrust, and hate."
Doc Whitney went on: "I practiced in the golden years of veterinary medicine....starting in the 60's-it was a time when the veterinarian was as loved as a member of your family.  Today, it is quite different."

There is a lot to be said about Doc Whitney's revelation about world change.  It does not just encompass veterinary medicine but it encompasses our entire world.  People cheat, lie, steal, defame, and seek ways to make money by hurting others.  They use the court system to sue the innocent; they utilize the Internet to attempt to destroy reputation; and they use all their awake hours to spread venom in the form of prejudice, distortion, and falsehoods.  They wear ugly masks and congregate with other disciples of evil.  Their energy is not found in helping but in hurting. Their brains are fed by this hate.  Doc Whitney saw this and it made him quite sad.  Mother Teresa also saw it and it made her fight even harder to help those in need.

"Let no one ever come to you without leaving better and happier. Be the living expression of God's kindness: kindness in your face, kindness in your eyes, kindness in your smile."  Mother Teresa of Calcutta

Look at the child in the picture of this blog building a sand castle.  In each handful of sand there are a 1000 bright while shiny particles of sand and one distorted irregular particle.  As the child sifts the sand through their fingers, the distorted irregular particle disappears.  We must live our lives accordingly.  Forget the negative people and concentrate on the 1000's that need our help.

This next decade at Silver Sands Veterinary will be even more exciting than the four decades that have passed.  With new technology and Silver Sand's Veterinary affordable animal care, there will be further opportunities to remove pain and restore a quality of life as the decade of the Human-Animal Bond is created at Silver Sands Veterinary.






As Sister Rose would say if she were here with us today: "Pack a bag Don there is much work to be done!"  

In honor of Sister Rose Curtin, I dedicate this new decade at Silver Sands Veterinary as "The Decade of the Human-Animal Bond."  Silver Sands Veterinary is a designated Animal Hospice Center modeled after Pawspice.  With the new emphasis on affordable animal care there will be more pets reunited with their owners that seek problem resolution and quality of life.  

The Human-Animal Bond is not just a veterinary concept. It is a uniting force!  Pet owner, veterinarian, and emergency rooms must act together as primary advocates of care and establish a vehicle that removes suffering and pain.  It is a difficult road but a road that Mother Teresa of Calcultta walked every day.

"Do not think that love in order to be genuine has to be extraordinary. What we need is to love without getting tired. Be faithful in small things because it is in them that your strength lies."  Mother Teresa of Calcutta





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Tuesday, September 10, 2013

9-11: A REMEMBRANCE 2013

9-11 
2013
A REMEMBRANCE


You are viewing one of the most memorable photos that we as citizens of the United States will ever view.  It is about courage; it is about love of country; and it is about honoring our fallen heroes of 9-11.

It is now 9-11 and the year is 2013.  Do you remember where you were 12 years ago when this American tragedy unfolded?  Do you remember the way people treated each other the first month after 9-11?

I remember it like it was yesterday.  Besides the pain and the death and the families that were sent into turmoil, I remember that people changed for a few short days.  I remember strangers talking to each other in stores; in parking lots; at gas stations; and sharing a bond that was remarkable.

It was a short lived bond.  This bond was forgotten and broken many years ago.  Sadly enough many will not even think about 9-11 in 2013 or look at the news programs and the memorials occurring all over our county.

What did we learn from 9-11?  We learned that we are a country that is not free.  We also learned that we are a country that can be damaged by zealots.  We also learned that America is strong and that we will fight those that kill innocents.  We can never forget that with freedom comes responsibility and that only working together we can decrease the threats of the insane that threaten our freedom.

Leo Buscaglia my mentor had it right when he said:

“The person who risks nothing, does nothing, has nothing, is nothing, and becomes nothing. He may avoid suffering and sorrow, but he simply cannot
learn, feel, change, grow or love.
Chained by his certitude, he is a slave; he has forfeited his freedom.
Only the person who risks is truly free.” 
― Leo Buscaglia

That is the lesson of 9-11!  Life is precious and very short.  We never know when it will be snuffed out and we will leave planet earth.

"Only the person who risks is truly free" -that is what Leo stated and that is how he lived his life.

So on 9-11 in 2013 let us not let the day pass without committing ourselves to risk.  Risk in helping others; risk in sharing our vulnerability; risk in placing ego at #10 and LOVE at #1; and risk in diminishing ourselves as we elevate others.

To the families who have lived with loss for 12 years and for eternity, I send my love and prayers.

To those who were not born when 9-11 -2001 happened, you must pick up the torch of risk and bring freedom to others with the gifts of compassion and concern.

Don DeForge, VMD
Animal Doc AM Multi-Media
9-11  ---2013
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Tuesday, August 13, 2013

In Search of a Hero- "The Kid"

"A-Roid" NO!
"The Kid" YES!
Don DeForge Animal Doc AM Multi-Media 12Aug2013

In Search of a Hero

We can't all be heroes, because somebody has to sit on the 
curb and applaud when they go by.


Gary Carter---"The Kid"

I don't know about you but I am tired of the A-Roid headlines; the constant interviews; the sports world commentary; and the analysis of A-Roid's Appeal for a 211 game suspension by MLB.
I want to put this behind; ignore it; and remember what baseball meant to me as a child and still means to me as an adult...symbolized by "The Kid"!

Hall of Fame Catcher Gary Carter Passes at Age 57

February 06, 2012
COOPERSTOWN, NY: Gary Carter, elected to the Baseball Hall of Fame after a 19-year big league career with the Expos, Mets, Giants and Dodgers, passed away peacefully on Thursday in his home state of Florida after a courageous battle with brain cancer. He was 57.
Gary Carter just loved baseball so much. Someone gave him the nickname "The Kid" because he wore his joy and enthusiasm for the game on the sleeves of his uniforms while with the Montreal Expos; the Mets; the Giants; the Dodgers and for Palm Beach Atlantic University, where he was the head coach.

No matter where he was or what he was doing, it was obvious that Carter was in love with baseball.
Carter died after suffering from brain cancer. His daughter Kimmie Bloemers published an announcement on a family website. The Hall of Fame catcher, the biggest face of the Expos franchise and a leader among superstars on the World Series champion Mets in 1986, was 57 years old. He hit 324 career homers, made 11 All-Star teams and seemed to have a blast every day he stepped onto the playing field.
From Big League Stew -Reporter David Brown

I thought it would be appropriate to leave PED's for a second and let all of my blogger audience read Gary Carter's Baseball Hall of Fame Induction Day Speech.  I would like parents to read this speech to their kids; I would like Little League players to sit down and read this as a team....You see, in the dark days of baseball,,,,,,, lights can shine; beacons can be found; and stars outline heroes.  Enjoy!

Gary Carter National Baseball Hall of Fame Induction Day Speech
"Wow. Are you having fun? Thank you, Jane, and thank you, Bud! You know that feeling as a kid, when you go into a candy store for the first time? All you can do is smile and just stand in awe. Well, this kid is in the candy store today. Cooperstown, where all dreams come true. Can you feel it? It is so sweet.There are so many people to thank today that have influenced my life and my career. I’ve been told by the other Hall of Famers that I have a time limit. 20 minutes. Those of you that know me, this is gonna be difficult. Alright. I have a tendency to elaborate at times, so I am gonna try to do my best. Just bear with me. I would be remiss if I did not say a few words in French. So here it goes.
“Bonjour Madames et Monsieurs, M. President, et les invités distingués. C'est avec grand plaisir et grand honneur d'être ici aujourd'hui. J'aimerais remercier tous les participants, les Expos, Mets, Giants et Dodgers. Mes amis, merci beaucoup."
I would like to thank all the sports writers, obviously, for this tremendous honor. I would also like to congratulate Hal McCoy for his great journalism through the years. All the pleasant times coming into the clubhouse. And to Bob Uecker, for all the fantastic years of broadcasting. Now Ueck, you’ll never be in the cheap seats again, pal, because you’ll always be in the front row.
I am so humbled to stand before you all and be in the presence of all these great Hall of Famers. This has been a terrific weekend and I would like to thank all the people involved with the Hall of Fame. From Dale Petroskey to Jane Clark to Jeff Idelson to Kim Bennett, and, of course, all of the other staff members. I had a dream as a young boy like all of these Hall of Famers up here, to be a professional athlete. I was blessed with a gift and I thank the Lord above for the wonderful, wonderful opportunity to have played this great game of baseball.
I played all the sports as a young boy, but it was always baseball that I loved the most. I collected baseball cards as a hobby, and one day dreamed of what it would be like to have my picture on one of those cards. I grew up in southern California, a Dodgers fan, and my idol was the Mick, Mickey Mantle. I know you’re here with us today, Mick, so thank you for instilling in me the love of the game. You see, I always have been a fan of the game first and a ballplayer second. Maybe that’s why I had the love and passion for this great game so much.
My dream became a reality in 1972 when the Montreal Expos drafted me in the third round. In high school my main sport was football as an All-American quarterback. Most of my scholarship offers from colleges were for football, not for baseball. So I had to think and pray hard and long to help make my decision. My decision was altered after a serious knee injury which resulted in sitting out my entire senior football season. After surgery and rehab I played the basketball season, but I was looking so forward to playing my passion, baseball.
It is funny because my primary positions in high school were as a pitcher and an infielder. During…I only caught five or six games my senior year of high school. But during those five or six games a scout by the name of Bob Zuk, who is here with us today, believed I could become a big league catcher some day. He held true to his word, and on the night of the draft, at 18 years of age, I signed a contract with the Expos and started making plans to head off to Jamestown, New York. Bob, thanks for believing in me.
So off I went to New York for a two-week tryout camp to determine where I was going to play that year. And it was there that Bill McKenzie, my first catching coach, who taught me all the fundamentals and techniques about catching. He was the one who taught me how to catch. Thanks, Bill, for your motivation and discipline. I don’t know if you’re here today, but I just want to thank you for everything that you did for me. And it was there in Jamestown, New York, where the journey began. I would like to thank all the coaches and managers I played for. For my very first manager, Pat Daugherty, to my very last manager, Felipe Alou, in Montreal. However, there is one manager who has left such an impact on my life and in my career and that was Karl Kuehl, who is with us today. He managed me when I was in the Instructional League, AA, and AAA, and I know he believed in me more than anyone else. I remember he would throw tennis balls to me, worked on my hitting, and to get out of the way of pitches. And he would even charge me 25 cents for every ball that I would drop when I was catching in a game. This, of course, helped me to concentrate better and helped me focus. And truly, I dropped a lot of balls when I was playing in the minor leagues, so this really did help. Although, at the end of the year, Karl said, “Aw, you don’t owe me anything.” Karl, thanks for working so hard with me and for helping me to be a better ballplayer.
I would also like to thank all of my teammates, some of them that are in the audience today. Thank you for inspiring me, making the game more fun and enjoyable. A lot of great memories that I will never forget. After two-and-a-half years in the minor leagues being groomed as a catcher, I began my rookie season in the major leagues in 1975. The Expos started me in the outfield. Well, that was when I could run pretty good and had some pretty decent knees. But after having a pretty good first half, I was invited to the All-Star Game in Milwaukee. Well, there it was Johnny Bench who befriended me and kind of took me under his wing. By then Johnny had established himself as one of, if not, the greatest of all time. He had already won two MVP awards and had developed the one-handed style of catching. And also as one of the best defensive catchers there ever was. Maybe, just maybe, he saw a little of him in me.
We had a picture taken together and later I asked him if he would sign it for me. And he wrote on it, he said, “Kid, in a few years it’s all yours.” Well, that inspired me to carry the torch for catchers, because it made me want to work hard as possible and to try to make every All-Star Game, and be the best at my position. Thanks, J.B., I appreciate it very much.
I was sitting there talking to Eddie, and he says, “You’re the one who chose those tools of ignorance,” but really, I always considered them being the tools of excellence. And there is something special, I truly feel, about being a catcher, that only another catcher can understand. So, Yogi, Pudge, J.B., you know what I’m talking about. It is an honor to enjoy being a part of this great fraternity.
Well, after two and a half years playing mostly in the outfield, I finally got a chance to play every day behind the plate in 1977. Dick Williams was instrumental in making that happen. From that point on, the rest was history. You see, going to a baseball game, just like you guys are here today, and sitting in the stands is like going to that happy place where you can leave your worries behind.
One of my favorite lines comes from a movie, Field of Dreams, and it goes something like this: 
“This game, this great game, is as innocent as children longing for the past. The feeling you get when you go to a ball game, walking through the aisles to your seats, sitting in your shirt sleeves, on a perfect afternoon. You find your reserve seat somewhere along the baselines, and acting as if you were a kid again. It’s almost as if though, you were dipped, yourself, in magical waters that the memories will be so thick you have to brush them away from your faces. Yes, the one constant through all the years has been baseball. America has rolled by like an army of steamrollers. It has been erased like a blackboard, built and erased again, but Baseball has marked the time. America’s pastime.”
Baseball has allowed me to meet so many special people along the way. One here today that I am so honored to have in our presence is former President George Bush, Sr. He has been such a great friend through the years and I appreciate very much the effort of you coming to today’s ceremony with your grandson, Robert, and I just want to thank you from the bottom of my heart, Mr. President. God bless you.
A few more people who kept me on track, especially on the business side of baseball, were Dick Moss and Matt Merola. They couldn’t be here today, but thank you guys, for helping me with all the contracts and endorsements through the years.
I’d also like to especially thank one particular good friend, and that’s Jerry Petrie, who not only was instrumental and was such a great guy and became such a good friend in Montreal, but he also was my agent. He represented me in all aspects as an agent and I appreciated the guidance and direction that he gave me. He encouraged me to be accommodating to the press, the fans, and made sure I always looked my best. “Petes,” thanks for everything.
I also want to extend a very special thank you to my good friend, Mead Chasky. I have known this man for a long time, when he was a huge fan and would hang around the team bus and would get autographs from all the players. I tell you what, he’s now my manager and he’s been the best man for this job to handle so many things for me. You’re awesome, Mead, and I can’t thank you enough. What a godsend you have been.
The greatest thrill of my career certainly was that amazing ’86 World Series. Nothing will ever top that and the memories will last forever. All of you that were there, everybody, will remember the dramatic Game Six and certainly the way we came back in that series. So all you Mets fans, God bless you, ’86.
I will be forever grateful to the Expos for beginning my career and winding up my career in 1992. The Lord gave me a storybook ending of my career in front of over 40,000 fans. My last at-bat was a game-winning double, and after hobbling to second base I left the game to a standing ovation. There is nothing like the roar of the crowd.
Now I’d like to take this moment to say what an honor it is to share this date with you, Eddie. Even though we only shared one year together with the Dodgers, I always respected your desire and your professionalism. A lot of people don’t know Eddie Murray the way I do, and it was in spring training in 1991, after one of the games, Eddie headed back to the clubhouse with a bat that he had broken in the game. In the midst of a large crowd, Eddie handed that broken bat to a smiling little boy. That boy happened to be my son, D.J. He was only six years old at the time and he ran into the clubhouse to show me what he had just gotten. I was kind of shocked because, Eddie, you don’t share a lot of things with a lot of people, you know? [laughs] But anyway, I walked over to him and asked him if he would kindly sign it, and after a brief hesitation he did, and, well, today, D.J. considers that bat one of his most prized possessions. And that, right there, was the start of the Carter-Murray connection. Who would have believed that we’d be standing here today on July 27, 2003 being inducted with all these great players?
Okay, this is where it might get a little tough. I want to take this time to thank the most important people in my life. Above all, I want to thank my Lord and savior, Jesus Christ. A great verse that spoke to me while writing my speech, and kind of explains what it is all about, it comes in Psalms 18: “I love you Lord, you are my strength. The Lord is my rock, my fortress, and my savior. And my God is my rock in whom I find protection. He is my shield, the strength of my salvation, and my stronghold. I will call on the Lord who is worthy of praise. I praise the Lord, my God, my best friend, for giving me the ability, the desire, the love and the guidance that brought me here today. Without you, I would be nothing.”
I thank you Lord for giving me such wonderful parents. My parents can’t be here today in person, and I know that they are smiling down from heaven today, because they have the best seats in the house. I have said to a lot of people that my father’s on my right shoulder today and my mom’s on my left. I love my parents very, very much. I only had my mother until I was just 12 years of age, but I always felt her presence throughout my career. My father Jim, who inherited the responsibility of both parents, didn’t have a mean bone in his body and always had a smile for everyone. He was always there for me. He coached me in Little League, Pony League, and American Legion and also supported me in any other sport I played, constantly encouraging me. His favorite time of year was spring training, when he’d come visit the family and watch a few games. He would go early with me to the ballpark and would stay until the end. He just couldn’t get enough baseball. I’ll never forget the time when we were playing cards in the clubhouse and the manger called a team meeting. That meant everyone out of the clubhouse, except the team. Well, my dad’s response was, “Do I have to? I have a pretty good hand.” Well, if you know my pop, that’s the way he was. And mom, pop, you’re missed, but you’ll never be forgotten. I know how happy and proud you guys are today.
I am also very blessed to have my other parents, my in-laws, mom and dad, my brother-in-law, Jim, who are with me today. They have known me since I was 16 years old and have watched me grow up. Thanks for all your love and support throughout the years, and always opening up your home in California for after-game celebrations.
Well, as for my big brother, Gordon, who is four years older than me, I thank you for being such an amazing role model for me growing up. It meant so much to me that you would allow me to always play ball with you and your friends, even if I did bug you all the time. You have been the one who has influenced me to always strive to do my best. I always tried to be your shadow and looked up to you in so many ways. I realize now how much you did for me while growing up. I am so thankful for the relationship we have. I love you, big brother.
Well, to my immediate family, there is so much to say and not enough time to say it. So, the one thing I remember the most is how much the kids and Sandy would be at all the games. You know, I never felt comfortable or relaxed until I saw their happy faces sitting in the stands behind home plate. What a blessing I truly have had, for my wife and my kids to be right there with me through it all. After each game, I would always be the last player to leave the clubhouse. It still amazes me to look back and think about the many hours my family waited for me without complaining. It was funny, because if I had a good game or if the team won, the kids knew the car ride home would be a heck of a lot more fun. To my three precious children, I love you all very, very much, and I am so proud of each and every one of you and for all that you have done. I am so thankful that each one of you have chosen to walk with the Lord.
Christy, you remember the most about my career, and have always prayed that I would do well in games. You were my number one cheerleader. What a help you were to mom and a great role model to Kimmy and D.J. You have become a beautiful woman and an excellent teacher. To my new son-in-law, Matt Kearce, who I feel is like a second son already, thanks for taking care of my kiddo.
To my little catcher, Kimmy, who would sometimes only last a couple of innings before she would head off to the wives’ room and start up her own games. She played softball with the same kind of passion and desire that I did. I got the chance to coach her, and I was amazed to see how much she reminded me of myself on the field. I certainly wouldn’t want to try to slide into her either, because, I tell you, she could some kind of block the plate. And she also left her mark at Florida State University. She enjoys teaching kids in the classroom and on the field, and she has truly turned out to be a beautiful woman, inside and out.
To my son, D.J. What a phenomenal man you have become. No father could ever be more proud of his son than I am of you. You light up on stage and you light up any room you enter. You are the most encouraging person and positive person I know. D.J., you inspire me, bud, to be a better man.
As for my wife and high school sweetheart, and now wife of over 28 years, I fell in love with you, honey, when I was 16 and my love for you has remained constant through the years. I thank you always for your encouraging words and all the letters you wrote to me while in the minor leagues. And for taking care of the family, and for always being by my side. You have truly shown your love to me and have always been the wind beneath my wings. For that, I will be forever grateful. I share this day with you honey, more than anyone else here. I love you more than you’ll ever know.
And in closing, I have mentioned and for so many that I have not been able to mention, thank you from the bottom of my heart. It is nice to know that even though my body feels like an old man now, I will always be a kid at heart. I love this great game, I’m so honored to be in Cooperstown as a Hall of Famer. I love you all, God bless you, thank you very much.
Source: National Baseball Hall of Fame (Link).

So, for today, we put away the thousands of comments about A-Roid and his potential loss of income from the NY Yankees because of a suspension.  We forget about ego; we forget about PEDs; we forget about how many million dollars do you need to become happy; and let us just remember "The Kid!" 

Baseball with survive the "PED ERA"....if "The Kid"-Gary Carter were talking to me today he would say once more...."Don....America has rolled by like an army of steamrollers. It has been erased like a blackboard, built and erased again, but Baseball has marked the time. America’s pastime.” 

There is a "Kid" in all of us....somehow the "Kid" gets lost as we grow and become involved in a world that is........ selfish and self-centered and............ plagued by anxiety and pretense!.   This same world rewards the most hits; the highest jump; the perfect shooter; the superb goalie; and the QB that throws the 50 yard bomb each weekend.  We cheer the victor and we boo the loser.  Fame and money are the sought after amphetamines of life.  Gary Carter survived that world and separated himself from the fake because he was real..................... he always was 'The Kid!" 

 His life which ended much too young taught us that we can find "The Kid" in each and every one of us if we never forget the mystique of the ballpark; the taste of a hot dog at a Minor League ball park covered in mustard; and the ecstasy of opening a bag of peanuts with your son or daughter at the bottom of the seventh inning..........all of these symbolize a simple world of caring and loving.  Become a "Kid"! Don't do it for Gary Carter alone....although he would have a big smile on his face if he knew you were believing in all he believed.....do it for yourself....and do it for others that you love.

Don DeForge, VMD
Animal Doc AM Multi-Media
AnimalDocAMMultiMedia.blogspot.com
Dr. DeForge is Medical Director of Silver Sands Veterinary in Milford, CT
www.SilverSandsVeterinary.com
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Sunday, July 28, 2013

Forgotten and Ignored-The Human Animal Bond-DH DeForge 28July2013

Forgotten and Ignored
The Human-Animal Bond
DH DeForge, VMD 28July2013


The Little Boy and the Old Man by Shel Silverstein

Said the little boy, "Sometimes I drop my spoon."
Said the old man, "I do that too."
The little boy whispered, "I wet my pants."
"I do that too," laughed the little old man.
Said the little boy, "I often cry."
The old man nodded, "So do I."
"But worst of all," said the boy, "it seems
Grown-ups don't pay attention to me."
And he felt the warmth of a wrinkled old hand.
"I know what you mean," said the little old man.


When Shel Silverstein wrote this simple poem, I wonder if he realized its impact on the millions who have read it through the years.  If it is first read as a child, it has a much different emphasis than when read as an adult.  It symbolizes...two stages of life.....the very young......and the very old sharing a mystery of similarity and a fate of being ignored.

How many have said to themselves if I had my life to live over I would have spent more time with my son or daughter and less time in my career.  Or, maybe, if I only could have that time back with my Mom or Dad or Grandma or Grandpa I would have spent more time with them and cherished their knowledge.  I don't think there are many who have not had those thoughts who have grown and raised a family.  

The irony of this New Millennium......... which we are already 13 years into as I write.......... concerns the fact that the nuclear family is farther apart now than ever and parents are ignoring children more than at any other time in the history of The Family of Man.  Sure...... there are great parents.....I know many of them.....and yes there are adults that idolize their parents and grandparents and have spent many hours with them as they age.   No one would disagree with me when I state this is the minority.  We are in the Internet Revolution and we spend more time on our Smart Phones; I-pads; computers; lap tops; and other electronic devices than we do speaking to each other.

I love the electronic age.  I am amazed by the technology and the wealth of information that is a key-stroke away.  At the same time, I see this Revolution destroying the family and creating a greater gap between the Little Boy and the Old Man than has ever existed.  I hope as your read this blog and take a moment to reflect on Shel Silverstein's insight that you will commit yourself to spending more time with your children and with your aged parents.

In my clinical setting each day, I see many young people on I-Phones; carrying I-Pads or pleading with their parents to get them the newest electronic technology.  The lack of connection between the child and pet in their home is increasing. I believe the Electronic Revolution is a major part of this segmentation of love between child and pet.  

Twenty-five years ago the young people coming into a veterinary hospital with their pets were amazed to see the animal doctor complete the exam on their pet. With eyes wide open, they would ask that doctor many very fascinating and quite mature questions .  Today, these same children's eyes are glued to the screen of an electronic game or communicator and almost seem to be spirits in the room rather than participants in the care of their pets.

Our pets bring to us unconditional love.  They can listen to us; they can see us; they love us; and they only ask for just a little love in return.  The Human-Animal Bond is the last frontier of caring in a world that has lost compassion and empathy!  

Spend time with your children.  Have your children spend time with their animal companions. We may be able to reverse what Shel Silverstein writes about in his epic narrative.  Maybe this poem can end one day........."and he felt the love of a wrinkled old hand.  I know what you mean it is not that bad being young and it is not that bad getting old when you are loved by so many." 

Dr. Don DeForge
28July2013
Animal Doc AM Multi-Media
www.AnimalDocAMMultiMedia.blogspot.com
Medical Director-Silver Sands Veterinary Center
17 Seemans Lane-Milford, CT 06460
203-877-3221
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Thursday, July 18, 2013

Heat, Humidity, and the Flea Party of 2013-Dr. Don DeForge 17July2013

"Birds do it, bees do it, even educated fleas do it. Let's do it, let's fall in love." Quote by - Cole Porter




Heat, Humidity, and the Flea Party of 2013-Finding the Answer to Coping with the Flea
Don DeForge,VMD  18July2013






It is summer time and that is FLEA TIME 2013!  Each year 1000's of pets become flea-laden and homes become flea infested.  The question posed to veterinarians is the same.....what is the answer doc?

To understand how to conquer your flea problem you must understand the life cycle of  the flea!

  • Adult fleas spend most of their life on the animal but most of the fleas life cycle occurs off the pet~.
  • This is why the pet and the environment both must be treated to remove your flea problem~
  • Adult female fleas lay about 50 eggs per day on the pet....one female can lay approximately 2000 eggs~
  • That one flea can multiply to 2000 fleas on your pet and in your home in 20-30 days~
  • Flea eggs fall off your pet onto cushions, beds, carpeting, and hard wood floors~
  • Eggs can hatch in 3-15 days but may not hatch up to a year~
  • When hatched the eggs develop shortly later into larva~
  • Larva feed on adult flea feces which is really dried blood that accumulates in the home where the pet plays and sleeps~
  • The larva mature in 8-14 days~
  • The larva become the resistant pupa stage for about a week before becoming adults~
  • The TOTAL life cycle time is 20-35 days~
  • In summary, one flea can have a life span of 6-12 months depending on environmental conditions~
  • FLEAS LOVE HIGH HEAT AND HIGH HUMIDITY!
  • In an ALLERGIC pet the bite of one flea can be serious and lead to an itch cycle that causes open sores, inflamed skin, and secondary infections.  Multiple bites can lead to a very serious skin condition~
  • YOU DO NOT NEED an infestation of fleas to cause a severe flea allergy; many times fleas are hard to find on your pet; one or two fleas can cause a very serious flea allergy in your pet~
  • Extensive skin damage occurs from the itching, licking, rubbing, and scratching cycle!
  • Areas affected most often are the base of the tail; rump; back legs; front legs; belly; upper neck; around the ears; and face~
  • DO NOT ATTEMPT TO TREAT A FLEA ALLERGY YOURSELF........ WITH OVER THE COUNTER PRODUCTS. CALL A VETERINARIAN AS SOON AS YOU NOTE THE EARLY SIGNS OF ITCHING! 
  • ALLOW YOUR VETERINARY HEALTH PROFESSIONAL TO MAKE THE CORRECT DIAGNOSIS OF THE CAUSE OF THE DERMATITIS PRESENT AND TREAT IT APPROPRIATELY WITH PRESCRIPTION PRODUCTS! 
How do I stop the Flea Problem that plagues my life, my home, and my pet?---THE ANSWER!

To stop a flea problem, you must initiate an aggressive action that includes the environment and all pets in the home.  Call your veterinarian about the choices of prescription topical flea control products.  Do not use OTC copy-cat products which are expensive and ineffective.  Use the prescription topical flea control product on ALL pets in your home....not just on the pet on which you have noted fleas.  REMEMBER, fleas are hard to find and one pet can be a reservoir affecting all other pets and the home.  Frequent vacuuming of the rugs and hardwood floors is essential.  If you have a vacuum with a bag, the bag must be discarded each day after whole home vacuuming is completed.  Do not try to save money by saving the vacuum bag which is flea laden.  Vacuum each day or every other day for four weeks.  Vacuum carpets, fabrics, cracks in hard wood floors and especially all areas that are shady or dark.

Consult with a professional licensed exterminating company that uses products that your state's Department of Environmental Protection rate as safe for home usage.  This is an important step that is missed.  Do not use home "flea bombs" or "flea-foggers" which are completely ineffective in flea control.

Most importantly, see your veterinarian at the first sign of flea presence.  If your pet is itching please call your animal doctor right away for a complete dermatology examination.  If you are itchy call your family internal medicine doctor or a human dermatologist for an exam to discover the reason for your discomfort.  Let your doctor know what pets you own and if any of them are being treated for a flea problem.  

Cats with fleas can carry Bartonella Disease.  Go to National Veterinary Labs website and find out about Bartonella Disease in Pets and People.


BARTONELLA:
FELINE DISEASES 
AND 
EMERGING ZOONOSIS 
WILLIAM D. HARDY, JR., V.M.D. 
Director 
National Veterinary Laboratory, Inc. 
P.O Box 239 
Franklin Lakes, New Jersey 07417 
201-891-2992 
www.natvetlab.com or .net

Do not wait! Make that phone call to your local animal doctor today.  Stop your special friend from experiencing the discomfort and the suffering of flea allergy dermatitis.

Don DeForge, VMD
www.AnimalDocAMMultimedia.blogspot.com
Medical Director
Silver Sands Veterinary Center
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Friday, July 5, 2013

LOVE QUIZ and the Human-Animal Bond-Dr. Don DeForge 04July2013

LOVE QUIZ and the Human-Animal Bond
Dr. Don DeForge
05July2013

Mother Teresa: "We can do no great things; only small things with great love."

In my blogs, I frequently refer to a special friend, Dr. Leo Buscaglia.  We lost Leo from heart failure 15 years ago but he has been with me every moment of my life and even more today than when I first heard him speak.  Leo was an educator, a scholar, a college professor, a media personage, an international lecturer, and most importantly a very decent and kind person.  Here are two lessons he taught me.

"Death is a challenge. It tells us not to waste time . . . It tells us to tell each other right now that we love each other"
~Leo Buscaglia

Perhaps the fact of life most conducive to living fully as a person is an honest awareness and acceptance of death.  When we can embrace death as simply another aspect of the life cycle, we will give appreciation and value to each life encounter knowing that it will never occur again.
~Leo Buscaglia

He also shared with me and 1000's of others his Love Quiz.  It was a test that you would take each day to be sure that you were centered and not drifting; that you were helping and not just asking; that you were embracing life and not just embracing wealth; and most importantly that you were each and every moment of each day SHARING LOVE.

I know that he would be honored, if he were with us today, to see what I have done with his famous LOVE QUIZ.  I have changed its emphasis not to detract from its message but to expand the message into the arena of the Human-Animal Bond.

Love Quiz-Dr. Leo Buscaglia with an Interpretation to Emphasize the Importance of the Human Animal Bond....Don DeForge, VMD

Asking yourself questions and answering them honestly is a good path to self-knowledge. In keeping with this idea, has your life impacted or improved the importance of any member of the Animal Kingdom today?

· Is any pet, companion, service dog, farm animal, zoo or aquarium animal or........ any other member of the Animal Kingdom a little happier because I came along today? 

· Did I leave any concrete evidence of my kindness, any sign of my love?

· Did I try to think of the animal I love and care for....... and the one who provides unconditional love to me......in a more positive light? 

· Did I help this animal companion to feel joy in my interactions today? 

· Have I attempted to remove a little of the rust that is corroding my personal companion animal relationship because I am too busy to see that........... I have been ignoring my responsibilities as animal advocate? 

· Have I forgiven my pet for being less than perfect because I myself am never perfect? 

· Have I forgiven myself for not being there as my pet grew older; developed cancer; or cognitive dysfunction? 

· Have I learned something new about life, living, or loving from my pet and special companion in life's journey?

. Have I gone through the day without fretting over what I don't have & celebrating the things I do have by giving extra love and attention to my special companion animal friend?

If you are not satisfied with your answers, take heart! Tomorrow you get to start all over again! If you will it, this is one quiz you can never fail.

As a pet owner; as an advocate of any species of the Animal Kingdom; as a protector from pain for all animals...whether farm, exotic, zoo, aquaria, laboratory, or any other......... comes responsibility.

When we step aside and say that this is not for me to consider or believe this concern is unnecessary in relation to animals, we have broken the support system of the bridge of compassion.  For compassion to be realized we need to find empathy.  Here is what you will find when consulting an on-line dictionary about what the word "empathy" means:

Empathy is the capacity to recognize or understand another's state of mind or emotion. It is often characterized as the ability to "put oneself into another's shoes", or to in some way experience the outlook or emotions of another being within oneself. It may be described metaphorically as an emotional kind of resonance or mirroring.

We must teach our children the importance of empathy.  Having children take the Human-Animal Bond Love Quiz from an early age will increase their awareness of empathy and deepen their social interaction skills.

Humanitarian, Paul Farmer, on May 25, 2013 in his University of Delaware Commencement Address described Empathy Deficit Disorder [EDD] and stated the following:

"You can be the cure for EDD in its chronic and acute forms. You can be the folks who address local outbreaks of EDD and also the global pandemic, which has affected people in every single nation on this fragile and crowded planet. Indeed, ours is a world that requires nothing less than linking empathy and compassion to reasoned plans that harness it to meaningful action. I don’t think anyone sitting out there, or up here, believes for a minute that humanity doesn’t have a future."

Begin today and take the Human-Animal Bond Love Quiz with your children, your partner, your lover, or your closest friend.  Remember, this is one Quiz you can never fail because it can be taken in its newest most relevant form each and every day of our lives. [A special thank you to my friend, Dr. Leo Buscaglia]

Dr. Don DeForge-Animal Doc AM Multi-Media
www.AnimalDocAMMultiMedia.blogspot.com
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Silver Sands Veterinary Center
17 Seemans Lane
Milford, CT 06460
05July2013